December 1, 2014
Kim looked sad. "I have a daughter. She's 23 now. I miss her over the holidays."
"When was the last time you saw her?" Seal asked.
"Twenty-Three years ago. I gave her up for adoption."
"You had money," Tony said. "You had resources. You could have gotten a nanny to help raise her. I'm not judging you, I'm just asking, why'd you give her up?"
"Even with a nanny one is expected to spend time with her child. I was having too much fun."
Silence fell over the group.
"I know where she is," Kim said. "I've talked with her parents. They have no objection to me meeting her. I think about meeting her every time I get sober."
"So why don't you get in touch?" Tony asked.
"I'm afraid to take the first step," Kim said. After a long pause she added. "It might be really – I don't know – really, really awkward."
Tony said, "You get over awkward." Like most people in the group I was surprised to hear his voice crack and to see a tear in his eye.
Today I won't let a little awkwardness get in the way of reconnecting with someone.
Relapse Prevention Group © 2014 by Ken Montrose
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